Monday, June 2, 2008

Anyone want to be me for a while ?????????

  I told myself last night I would write about this in my journal, but whatever.Things between my friend Debbi and I have'nt been so good lately, she never seems to want to make an effort for us to hang out , even though I rarely get to see her more then 5 minutes during the week , we used to be able to have lunch twice a week when we were both working , but now I can never get away when I want to, it's frustrating, I've told her countless times we should hang out on the weekends so we can chat without constant interuptions but she gives me lame excuse about doing laundry on Sundays,  Come on, one damn day you ca'nt break your rut ?I've stopped calling her, I do'nt even feel happy anymore when she shows up at lunch and expects me to have my break whenever I can, Usually by the time I get my break , it's time for her to go back to work so if I'm lucky we get to chat for 5 minutes when I am working, I'm sick and tired of her pretending to be my friend and telling me when she sees me " I think about you every day" and this and that, Yeah sure you do, then why do you make an effort for us to hang out, I feel this so - called friendship has become very one - sided with me doing most of the work, I'm pretty sick of it too, Sometimes I wish she had'nt moved back here to San Mateo, our friendship first got damaged I think when she moved two years ago, I feel I deserve better then a 5 minute "Hi" twice a week, does she ever call me ????? No It used to be me who had to do all the calling, Not anymore, I am so done with fake people or people who pretend to be my friend, Ellen thank you for the beautiful sympathy card that came today, thank you allfor listening to my rant, hope you all have a good Tuesday, I Love You All Lisa XOXO

22 comments:

emabecmar said...

((((((((((Lisa))))))))))))) I hope things change soon for you and your friend. I want to thank you for saying a prayer for Marissa. I am so worried about her. She is mommom's girl.
Love ya,
Cindy xoxoxo

cuteallison1980 said...

I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better Lisa.  I know it is hard to feel like you give all the effort in a friendship where the other just doesn't.  Just follow your heart and it will never lead you to the wrong places.  There are many others out there looking for true friends like you.  Hope you have a happier tomorrow.  Luv ya!

Allison

nightmaremom said...

awww hon I'm sorry... I have no magic words.  It makes me sad to think I've had friendships end because of this very thing...  life is to short...
hugs
d

dca721 said...

Hi Lisa,
I am sorry about your friend.
I think you are doing the right thing.
Sorry I have been a stranger lately, things have gotten so complicated for me that I don't have time for a life anymore.
Love you dear.
Donna

bojgill4375 said...

Will keep you in my prayers. I had a friend one time and thought we would never loose contact with each other... I can not find out where she is. I guess it was more of a one sided friendship. Really makes you wonder at times, doesn't it? Hugs, Janie

kamdghwmw said...

I know this is hard for you to deal with. I do not have very many friends. O.K. friends that show up and have tea with me. Most of my friends live in my computer.
Kelli
http://journals.aol.com/kamdghwmw/noonmom

imgr8phil said...

Hang in there Lisa.  I know it has been a tumultuous relationship with Debbi for you.  Just live day by day and you never know what will happen next.  Take care.

Phiil

siennastarr said...

I have a saying that I live by.. "True friends are like diamonds, precious, but rare.. False friends are like Autumn leaves, found everywhere."  
It sucks to feel that your friendship is all one sided.  Sometimes you have to just let it go, Lisa..  If she was meant to be your friend, you will find your way back to one another.

Hugs
Jackie
http://journals.aol.com/siennastarr/Hopefloats/

eml625 said...

Some people arent worth your time Lisa. Sounds like she's one of them.
Take Care
Ellen

candlejmr said...

When one door closes...another door opens...

I am sorry this "high maintenace" friend of yours is just that....such high maintenance.  I feel that those people just suck me dry and I have to distance myself from them...for my own sanity.  Yes, there is a sort of "grieving" that goes along with losing a friend,  but in the long run, it's usually for the best.  As people get older and their lifestyles change alot of times their friends change too.   It's possible that there are other friends out there for you and you are not seeing them clearly because all of your focus is on this one person who has let you down.  Look around you with open eyes and see who's there.  I think it's time for you to move on to the next chapter of your life.  

Good luck and lots of ((hugs))
Jeanne

emmi2sweet said...

Sorry about your friend ... guess she doesn't appreciate your friendship cause I'm so very thankful & proud to call you mine. Emmi

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))))))))))I know how you feel,I been there,done that and wrote the Tshirt.I am sorry you are so huirt by this.You need someone who you can depend onn and will always be there for you.I hope you will find someone like that.I think everyone needs a friendship like that.She is married to my Brother now,I can write a whole book,but wont go there.We dont talk at all,She talks to my Couisn more and I dont even talk to my Couisn.You dont deserve this.You are a good person.

chat2missie said...

I'm sorry you feel hurt by her.  If I lived closer, I'd have lunch with you and I'd skip laundry day to hang out with you.  Heck, who likes laundry anyway?
Missie

magogos said...

It's painful  to face the recognition that someone who used to be a good friend isn't one any more, especially when you value and resepect and want friendships in your life. I am sorry Lisa. She doesn't know what she is missing. Love, Margo

rgossett4195 said...

Lisa you are wise to expect more from her.  Hang in there, hopefully she will get the hint.  love rose~

queeniemart said...

I understand how you feel..sometimes you want a real friend and the other person is unwilling to be that friend and it is hurtful. You are the nicest person on earth and this chick is REALLY missing out by being the way she is with you.
LOVE YOU!

fierrorachel said...

Wow, I'm sorry.  My BFF and I understand that we may go months without seeing each other, but we also know that we will make the SAME effort to get together and fall right back into the conversation that we left off with months ago.  YOU have to decide if this is a productive relationship, or a destructive one.  It sounds like you've decided.  Take care!

nay0114 said...

Sooo sorry I didn't realize this was the friend that just moved back. It's not an excuse but sometimes people do change when they move. I'm not close to my friends that I use to have. I made new friends when to the place I moved. My best friend and I are both different people now we split and had many life changes happen.. we still do talk and when I go home we get together for stuff, but it's not the same like if we had been together all along without a break. I would think a couple of years wouldn't make a difference, but I don't know. My friend and I were seperated for 20yrs. Hope you find a different friend to do stuff with.
Take care and Hugs, Chrissie

peytonswater said...

I'm sorry it's be rough with you. Sometimes for whatever reason people just go there own way and well, that's just it.  Time to move on.  And sadly it's time for you to move past her , you don't deserve to be hurt.
Hugs
Ang

heavenlybama said...

Hi Lisa.....catching up here.  I understand where you're coming from.  After a 20 yr. friendship, the last 3 yrs. of it being one sided and the effort I put into it, I gave up.  She lives in FL and we have seen or spoke to each other in 8 yrs.  It's sad but I did it for my daughter's protection.
Hugs,
Dana

ksgal3133 said...

You would think that when you become an adult friendships are easier but they are not and I'm sorry that you are going through this. I've had a friend here ever since we have lived here who is similiar. Now she is upset that I'm moving....well do we ever hang out anymore...no so why be upset?
Sending you hugs and prayers,
Gretchen

cacklinrosie101 said...

Lisa, you surely don't need a one-sided friendship.  If Debbie wants to see you, let her be the one who makes an effort to change her schedule around.  I know it hurts either way.  You deserve better.  HUGS Chris