Friday, April 11, 2008

More Dad News

 Hi friends, my brother came over last night and gave me more news about my dad.It does'nt look good for him, he has multiple tumors in his liver and pancreas , the doctor told him he better start fixing his will and to get all his ducks in a row, no matter how much of an ass he has been to me, this news still makes me want to cry.The doctor told my dad he may have a month, two months, 6 months ????? I am still trying to decide if I want to see him, He may change his bad attitude towards me if he is dying, what would you all do ??????? Thanks for your input, I Love You All Lisa XOXO

13 comments:

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((((((((((LISA))))))))))))))))))Let me ask yiu a question,would you like to see your dad,knowing it would be the last time?My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((((LISA))))))))))))))))))))))))I would lvoe to have you as a pen pal.

kamdghwmw said...

I watched my dad. If I could go back and redo something it would be that I would have gone back to IL. sooner. My dad was out here just a year before he died and his mind was slipping then. I have no closure because you can't talk to a person that is longer there. I think you should go see him and ask the questions that you want answers to.
Kelli
http://journals.aol.com/kamdghwmw/noonmom

rgossett4195 said...

Lisa, for me I'd go see him.  At least after he goes you can feel like at least you tried.  After he is gone it will be too late.  And remember the crap he did is on him.  You were a child.  Now you are an adult, be the bigger person and treat him as you would any other dying person.  You can do it!!  YOu have a huge loving heart!  love, rose

emmi2sweet said...

I think I would go see him that way when he passes on you know that til his dying breath you did everything possible to have a relationship with him. Maybe thing will have changed with him. Lots of luck ... big hugs, Emmi

siennastarr said...

Lisa.. Do what your heart tells you to do.  Don't do anything out of guilt.  If you truly want to see your dad.. then do it.  If you are feeling guilty because he is sick, and like you "have to" do it, then I would probably not see him.  The way he has treated you in the past doesn't change, just because he is ill.  It doesn't mean that you can't continue to keep him in your prayers... or send him a card (if you wanted to).  
When and if he passes aways, there is nothing wrong with going to the services and paying your respects.......IF that is what your heart tells you to do.  
Don't get suckered into letting anyone make you feel guilty, Lisa.  Your dad has made his bed, now he must lay in it.  If any one should make amends right now, it's your dad.  He should be trying to reconcile and apologize to you for the way he has treated you.  But, that's just my opinion.

Listen to your heart, my friend...  

Hugs
Jackie

chat2missie said...

No matter what happened in the past, he's still your father and of course the news is upsetting.
Missie

sugarsweet056 said...

It's up to you, but think long & hard, & pray about it. Do what's right for YOU, you'll have to live with it.
Will be praying for your dad to not experience too much pain, & for you.
Hugs,
Sugar

markonit said...

... I know that this is personal ... but from my experience, to be able to say either he was a butt-munch to the end, or being able to make peace, is worth the effort ...

... don't worry about ANYONE ELSE ... just honor YOUR relationship to your father ... make sure to say good bye ... you don't have to be maudlin about it ...

eml625 said...

I'm so sorry to read this. I hope you make amends with him just to say goodbye. HE should request to see you ... and make things right again, for his peace of mind. I hope so
Love ya
E.

fasttrack58 said...

I'm so sorry about you Dad....
and I think you should see him if it would put your heart at peace....
Linda...

queeniemart said...

i also have a fractured relationship with my dad but i WOULD go see him if it was the end for him. I just do not want you to get hurt!!
LOVE YOU

nay0114 said...

I think HE should be the one worrying about what he has done to you. I believe there is a HELL and I believe that if he doesn't try to make amends there is no hope for his soul.
On the other hand, I know that you really want to see him again deep in your heart you'd have to he is your father whether good or bad, BUT I don't feel that you should be hurt again one last time.
I can't advice you on what to do it needs to come from your heart on what you want to do. Would your brother go with you so you are at least not alone?
Take care and Hugs, Chrissie